You may find my title of this blog a bit of an oxymoron, and wonder how anyone can pervert an industry that is sex based? Well, many will attest that escorting isn't solely"sex based", since what is paid for is our time, and not sex. When we couple, or triple, etc, with other people, what we do within that time is at "our" discretion, and often times we are sought out for reasons beyond sexual gratification, or physical attraction.........
This blog is to clarify things for a few...and although this blog was "inspired" by one person, who I won't name,...although many might know to whom I refer as "she" is one of the review boards most prolific posters, lol. Openly naming her will only bring out those trolls who'll contrive the foolish notions that speaking openly and frankly about any particular person or any particular topic, speaks to someone being jealous or with a chip on their shoulder, or other foolishness.( I say as I roll my eyes)
I'm writing this blog because it irks me when "she", and people like her, perpetuate notions about escorting that aren't true and then hold themselves as examples as to what an escort should be, or to how they should operate. Firstly, when you advertise yourself as someone who is in this for their own thrills, and you claim that you don't need the income from this to sustain your lifestyle, because your "main stream" business fullfills your financial needs, and your reviews indicate that your activities are more for self gratification rather than satisfying or servicing another , then you aren't an escort....you are simply someone charging a fee to get your own sexual thrills. It is also people like her who praise and push review boards, and who like to perpetuate the notion of hierarchy among escorts. Certainly there are lots of different types of escorts and these escorts all offer different services, and styles of services, but there is no one escort who is more valuable than any other and no one with good intentions would try to perpetuate the notion that some are better than others. What differentiates other escorts from "her" is that they see and treat escorting as a job, and not their "hobby" or as a way to get their "shits and giggles". Women who treat escorting as their entertainment and as their only way to get their sexual gratification are priviliged and not the norm.They should not feel the right to represent this industry, or to dictate how things should be done. The majority in this industry are seeing multiple partners not because they need to fulfill their own sexual needs, or because they are bored, or wanting some side fun, they are escorting because they need to fulfill financial needs. Lets be honest, no one that is doing this for money, could see multiple men/women regularly, and orgasm with each one of them. They'd be exhausted. Escorts who treat this as a job, don't see their clients as "sexual relief", they see them as "finanacial relief" and that is not to say they treat their clients as cash machines, quite the opposite. These people are skilled, responsible, and know how to cater to a client to satisfy them while maintaining professionalism and their own reasonable sexual boundaries.
So to refresh some of you, I have been in this industry for a couple of decades (wink) and, in most capcities it holds. I started working for a service (incall & outcall), danced ( not in dance clubs, but for private parties/individuals), I've run services (independently/and for other people), and I've worked as an independent escort/companion, which is what I do now. So I've seen and learned a thing or two. I've experienced the biz before the boards, and after. So I feel just in speaking about the industry, the boards and all the issues they cause and about those who promote them. I speak openly, frankly and without fear about those who praise and push review board culture as they are most often the ones least interested in betterment of this industry. They most often have an agenda, driven by a need for self promotion, and the promotion of those who'll give them what they want, irregardless to how this affects anyone in their path. There are many sheep in wools clothing and many are cowards who use the boards as their podiums for spewing lies, hate and unrealistic ideals they feel escorts should live up to....and there are also decent, reasonable, hard working people on the boards, but seldom are these people prolific posters, they more often are lurkers, or those just trying to quietly get ahead or get some head, wink, wink......
So to clarify, I am not condemning any person for enjoying sex, and the thrill of getting paid for having it..... I am simply trying to explain that people who do this for their own thrills shouldn't hold themselves as examples for others in this industry, as they are the minority and not the norm, nor is how they offer their services, nor are the services they offer, the norm......At best, they are mistresses, and should advertise as such or advertise as something other than an escort. Those in this "minority" also perpetuate their belief that a GFE comes with expectations of providing/obtaining certain activities, to most other escorts, that acronym, and all the others used, explains a "style" of service offered/obtained, *and not* expectations that specific activities/services will occur.... The subject of my blog, will exhaust herself sexually with each of her clients, to fulfill her own desires, ( she herself explains this, as do her reviews) because she can..... she claims she doesn't have to see multiple men/women to sustain her lifestyle. She gets to choose who she sees, and how often, so she says....and in order to "exhaust herself sexually" she does what many of us would only do with our "significant others" and again, there is nothing wrong with this, but it isn't typical to escort behavior. And people like her, and the boards she frequents, like to promote the notion that her "behavior" is typical to escorting, and that those who are not treating their clients like this as being "NOT good escorts". These notions are unrealistic, false, and they create unreasonable expectations for anyone new coming into this business. Escorting is hard work, it is physically demanding, mentally draining, and can be harmful to ones self esteem. For any person who sees escorting as their means of "getting off" or their "hobby", or for their "shits n giggles" need not speak as a representative for this industry because they are not representative to the majority....and I'd say it's even a stretch to say they speak for the minority.....Most escorts are out there offering a service/s to clients without wanting to loose any part of themsleves. To them this isn't a game, nor "shits n giggles", this is a job, and one they respect and separate from their personal lifesyles.
I'm sure those trolls who like to post anonymously and who are perpetuating lots of lies about me will also twist this blog into something it isn't and will comment to it. Once again their little panties will get twisted, they don't like it when someone speaks negatively about their actions and their beloved boards. These cowardly trolls are only brave when they sit behind their computers surrounded by their ilk, lol. Enjoy!!