I've been reading some tweets posted by one of my followers, a woman I truly admire. It saddens me that she is tweeting about being harrassed, bullied, and feeling unsupported by this community. Community is a word often used to describe those of us, clients and escorts as a whole, and a term I use loosely. As I don't believe the term holds the meaning some use it to mean. I don't believe there to be a general consensus of welcoming or inclusion within this supposed "community". ....Anyhow that is a story in itself for another time. So back to her ....She is a drop dead gorgeous woman, stunning in fact, and has an air of sensuality few project, and a kindness not often found. So I understand why she is having issues. She is a diamond in a pile of stones.....When you have "it" in this business you will become a target for the less fortunate, the insecure, and the jealous haters, and they can be men or women......it's just the way it is...(And).. If you're not the type to group with the "popular" people in your area, and play as they do, or if you speak truths about this biz or of any of it's members, then you become an enemy, and many will then scheme ways to ruin your reputation, your business, and finally your self respect. They will pick apart your looks, they will scrutinize your business practices and attack your opinions.....they stop at nothing. Some people can dislike another and leave them alone, others seem to have a need to attack those they dislike. The latter seems to be the majority population in escorting.They are sad little bullies who think they are justified in their actions because their "community" is supportive towards them and never penalizes their attacks.

I hold no candle to this woman I speak of, but I can certainly relate to what she is going through, especially in my earlier years of escorting, and up until now, actually. It wasn't long ago that I experienced a type of bullying that school kids used to use.You know those kids who'd invite another kid they didn't like into their group activities, or conversations, under the guise of friendship, just so they could belittle or embarrass them....Not long ago I had invited a couple of my peers to dinner, one asked if her friend, another escort, who I knew had no like for me, could join us. I agreed.I had hopes that we's all be adult, civil, and enjoy an evening together.... But as I expected, this "other invited person" was who I thought she was....I tried to initiate polite conversation with her, but the few words she spoke to me were passive aggressive put downs, and the rest of the time she spent stroking the egos of and engaging the other two ladies all while purposely leaving me out of any of the conversations. It was funny to watch....she put so much effort into it. I thought it would have been easier for her if she had just said to me, I don't like you, lol...but seldom do her types have the courage to be honest. They prefer to play childish mind games, and to be passive aggressive bullies.

So..... as much as I can relate to what this woman is going through, and as much experience as I've had with the types of low lifes who are causing her issues, there is little advice I can give. As the only thing anyone can do in these situations is to hold fast to their sense of self. Know that only broken people attack others who have done them no harm, and only unhappy people bully, and bullies never act alone, they don't have the courage to .....This industry is rife with bullies and those who are fake. They are perceived one way and are exactly the opposite.It is why I believe reputation in this industry to mean very little.....It simply means there are some good actresses and actors out there. And remember that saying....Character is what you are, reputation is what people think you are......Anyhow, I hope this lady finds some peace and perhaps some solace in reading this and if she does read this know, I've got your back should you ever need me.