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Damed if you do, damed if you don't

24 Jan, 2025

The worst part of loving my job, at least a sex work job, is that if it is made known, I'll be judged....Yes we are all judged in some way, but yet not quite as harshly as sex workers are judged. I speak of this from experience. I've lost a residence, a couple of close friends, and have even shamed by some of my peers because of admitting to loving this line of work. In this industry many will push the notion that being a sex worker is providing a fantasy for the clients, not actually enjoying your dates,nor is it a lifestyle to be enjoyed. Many who work in the industry portray themselves to be loving what they do, all while hating it, or putting up with it until they earn the needed monies they've determined they need. Nothing wrong with that, I suppose, but it is usually those people who'll add to the premise that sex work is bad and should only be done when desparate, or for a short period of time.That it shouldn't be considered a career, or a lifestyle.

Being a sex worker who openly admits loving what she does, can lead to problems from both general society and peers.....I remember one of my first instances of admitting to a fellow worker that I enjoyed my clients, and her response, was "eww, how can you love being with a trick". I responded, "tricks" are men, and I love men, lol....

Throughout my escorting years, I have had a few conventional relationships. When I was involved in those, I left escorting. I was never one who could offer my clients authentic intimacy and then go home and offer the same to my partner and I always belived in honesty, in being real. I'm not a good actress, and I don't want to be. Nor could I respect a man who'd allow me to be with other men.....So part of the reason I so enjoy this line of work is, or could be, because I'm single, and I see and treat my clients as actual dates. The shame some will try and impart upon me for feeling that way o longer has any effect. However I do still feel the need to hide that I am a sex worker in many instances. People just aren't accepting of this line of work, no matter how happy it makes you, or how successful. So protecting myself and my interests is important. I can love it, just not publicly....which is a shame.